Monday, October 30, 2006

A Punny Way to Life

One of the reasons that people can misunderstand are that words can have 2 or more meanings. This is once of the reasons that the English language is full and puns and ultimately humor. Here is a collection that was sent to me. Remember to share the laugher, its good for your health.

Those who jump off a bridge in Paris are in Seine.

A backward poet writes inverse.

A man's home is his castle, in a manor of speaking.

A hangover is the wrath of grapes.

Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?

Reading while sunbathing makes you well red.

When two egotists meet, it's an I for an I.

A bicycle can't stand on its own because it is two tired.

What's the definition of a will? (It's a dead giveaway.)

In democracy your vote counts. In feudalism your count votes.

A chicken crossing the road is poultry in motion.

If you don't pay your exorcist, you get repossessed.

When a clock is hungry, it goes back four seconds.

The man who fell into an upholstery machine is fully recovered.

Local Area Network in Australia: the LAN down under.

He often broke into song because he couldn't find the key.

Every calendar's days are numbered.

A boiled egg in the morning is hard to beat.

He had a photographic memory that was never developed.

A midget fortune-teller who escapes from prison is a
small medium at large.

Santa's helpers are subordinate clauses.

Acupuncture is a jab well done.

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
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Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Reframing

Misunderstandings in communication happen all the time.
Many times it comes from believing that we know what the other person is going to say or that we know what they mean without listening to them.

This can stem from our own biaes and experiences in life.
To overcome this, when we are communicating with another person, it can be important to reframe our thoughts, feelings and opinions of what we believe is going on.

Reframing is basicly looking at the situation with a new set of eyes. It’s asking your self if you have a clear picture of the situation and of what is happening around you.

For example: You could ask yourself, "Is this person really angry at me or are they hurting and scared? Do I have all of the facts?"

Do I really want to hand my power over to them by reacting?
Its asking: How do I want to be in this situation.

Next time you are not sure if you have all the facts, try to reframe and then clairfy with the person you are talking with. The results can be amazing.


All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
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Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Starting out with Clear Communication

The best way to open up the lines of communication, is to do your best to ensure that the other person has a clear idea of what you are saying. Too often we can be vague or give partial information and get annoyed when others don't understand us.

This is so fundamental that many communication masters, such as Marshall
Rosenberg, teach the following.

Giving specifics.

For example.
When you do… (Promise to get me the sales record by 4 pm and then don't),
I feel … (Frustrated)
Because I… (Need to get the report out before the end of the day)
And I need to know that…. (I can rely on you.)

When people understand what you need and why, they are much more likely to correct the situation or work with you on solutions.
However, if you were to say something like, "You are useless and unreliable". The person may not know exactly what you are talking about and why. Also, they will be put on the defensive and often will be unwilling to resolve the situation.

We can't assume that the other person will automatically know what we are talking about, and life has shown that most often they don't.

Try this out for the next week and see how this works for you.
Remember it can be the little things and going that extra distance that can over come many communication challenges.

Have a great week.

Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator

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Friday, September 01, 2006

New Words & Meanings

In past issues, I have talked about words that the Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary has added to their list and words that are looked up more than others are. This gives us insight into how our language and communication is growing. Many of the additions come from new discoveries and ways of living.


It is essential to have change in our language in order to have growth and continual use. It has been shown in the past that languages that do not evolve with the times, fade out and run the risk if extinction.

Below is a small sample of nearly 100 words and slang’s that have become part of the "normal" language and are being added to the:
Merriam-Webster's Collegiate® Dictionary, Eleventh Edition

See which ones you are already using. I have added a few definitions to the list.

Technology and Computers

Mouse potato
The computer equivalent of a couch potato:
Someone who spends a great deal of leisure time in front of the computer.
Both activities tend to be accompanied by snacking. A recent survey by the American Snack Food Association found that 85% of Web surfers snack at the computer. It has been observed that this habitual nibbling and relative inactivity can lead to development of a characteristic potato-like body form

Ringtone

Spyware

Science and Medicine

Avian influenza

Biodiesel
Refers to a diesel-equivalent, processed fuel derived from biological sources.

Gastric bypass
Surgery that makes the stomach smaller and allows food to bypass part of the small intestine. You will feel full more quickly than when your stomach was its original size. This leads to weight loss.

Pop Culture

Soul patch
A small growth of beard under a man's lower lip

Supersize

Entertainment and Leisure

Labelmate
A singer or musician who records for the same company as another

Ollie
A maneuver in skateboarding in which the skater kicks the tail of the board down while jumping in order to make the board pop into the air

Wave pool

The Human Condition

Drama queen
A person given to often excessively emotional performances or reactions

Unibrow

International

Manga
A Japanese comic book or graphic novel

Qigong
An ancient Chinese healing art involving meditation, controlled breathing, and movement exercises

Business and Industry

Agritourism
Touring agricultural areas to see farms and often to participate in farm activities

Big-box

Nature

Aquascape
A scenic view of a body of water
or an area having a natural or constructed aquatic feature (as a pond or fountain)

Coqui
pronunciation: kO-'kE
a small chiefly nocturnal arboreal frog (Eleutherodactylus coqui) native to Puerto Rico that has a high-pitched call and has been introduced into Hawaii and southern Florida

Miscellaneous

Polyamory
The state or practice of having more than one open romantic relationship at a time

Sandwich generation
A generation of people who are caring for their aging parents while supporting their own children

2006 marks the bicentennial anniversary of America's first dictionary—Noah Webster's A Compendious Dictionary of the English Language.

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
http://www.falconfreedom.com
http://www.communicationmasteryarticles.com

Thursday, August 17, 2006

Suppressed Message

As I have pointed out in several past issues, there are many reasons why people have communication breakdowns. Looking at the various reasons helps in our understanding as well as assists us in improved connections with other people. This in turn enables us to get our message across more effectively.

Whether intentional or not, one of these areas is the suppressed message.

Quite often, we focus most on the information that is important to us and we leave out the rest. This can give a very lop sided view of the events or situation. I find that some teens are a master of this, though there are some politicians who are probably are a close second.

A teen may tell you that they want to spend the night at a friends house. They tell you that his or her parents are there and that they will be safe.
The suppressed message is that the parents don’t know that you are staying overnight and that they are going out themselves. The teen may have also left out that others were also invited to this gathering.

Another example would be a teen asking if they can go to the movies. You are concerned about them hanging out with a certain person and you ask, "You're not going with John, are you?" The teen smiles and say not, not to worry that she is going with Sally, while all along she knows that John will be there.

Some adults have used this device and kids watch what their parents do. For example, if you ever phoned into work and said, "I can’t come into work today as I woke up feeling very sick.", and you knew it was because you partied the night before, you are using suppressed message. As well, you are teaching those watching you.

You are asking, isn't there ever a time for a suppressed message and I would say yes. However it depends upon your motives for doing so.

Ask yourself, is it to deceive or is it to protect?

If a colleague or friend asks you what you think about their outfit, painting, project etc and you really don’t like it, being polite can better than insulting them. And yes there is a time for critiquing, but many people are not trained in how to do it properly and just end up hurting the other person. Just because we don't like something doesn't mean that a lot of other people won't like it either. Everyone has different tastes and opinions.

When you are trying to find out information from another person. Ask yourself, "Am I getting the full story here?" "What other questions might I ask that could help me get the bigger picture?"

As well, when you are trying to get someone to understand you. Ask yourself, "What might have I left out?" "What else should they know?" Am I keeping something back?"

Leaving things out could lead the person to a hasty conclusion. But that is another issue for another week.


All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
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Have a great week!

Monday, July 31, 2006

What's Your Body Telling Others?

Last time I spoke about open-ended questions. How they can help, you get others to open up to you more. However, that is a part of the whole picture. There are many reasons that people will close up to you. One of the reasons is that you can be sending them messages that you don’t really want to talk to them by your body language.

It has been proven that people pay more attention to your body language than they do the words you are saying. If you say that you are happy, but your arms are crossed and your head is down, people will not believe you. If you state that you are fine, but you are grimacing, those around you won’t believe you. If you say that you want to talk, but you are tense and your body is pointing away from the other person, they will believe that you don’t really want to talk to them.

When people are listening to you, what they believe is divided into the following:

7% your words,
38% your tone and
55% your body language.

So the next time you talk to someone, stop and look into a mirror or ask someone, how you are being portrayed.


All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
Communication Mastery
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P.S. Like what you're reading,
you'll love the book,
"Overcoming Barriers to Communication"

It's an interactive manual that takes you through the steps to help
you overcome
challenges in communicating and connecting with others.
Overcoming Barriers to Communication

Have a great week!

Tuesday, July 18, 2006

Do others give you quick short answers?

People have said, "Maria, I try to get (John or Jane) to talk to me, but all I get are short or quick answers. There seems to be no substance to the conversations."

Now this is more common with talking to teenagers, something I have experienced myself. However, it can also happen with employees or even co-workers.

It can be very frustrating when you are trying to find out certain information you need to get a job completed, or even trying to build up a better working relationship.

Fortunately, there are ways to help you along. One of them is to look at the type of questions that you are asking. For example, a closed-ended question more often will bring you a short reply.

If you ask, "Have you got the outline for the project?" You many receive a quick "Yes" as a reply even though you were wanting the details.

Asking open-ended questions will lead you to more information in your conversations.

Instead of asking,
"Have you been working on the project?"
which could also get a Yes. Try asking.
"Tell me about what you have accomplished on the project".

Instead of,
"Did you like the project",
try,
"What about the project did you think was good."

There are many more examples that we could go over. The first part is to ask yourself. How have I been approaching people.
Try out this way of approaching people and take note of the answers that you receive.

All the Best!
Maria Boomhower
The Master Communicator
Communication Mastery
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